Saturday, October 23, 2021

A Wedding Sermon for Jacob and Amanda

 

A Sermon for the Wedding of Jacob and Amanda, Sunday, October 23. Preached at All Saints, King City, Anglican Diocese of Toronto. 

 9Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”  (Mk 10.9).

When an engaging young couple called Jacob and Amanda approached me about helping them with their wedding, I jumped at the chance.     Even before Covid, it seemed an increasingly rare thing now for young adults to seek a wedding in a church and in the Christian tradition.  In my conversations with Jacob and Amanda before today, we talked about both the beauty of marriage as its defined in the language of today’s service, and the seriousness of this high calling that these two will enter into today, in your sight and with your support.

Much of the language that you will hear today comes from Christian scripture, which shapes how we have thought about marriage over the centuries.  The tone of this service is joyous, but there are also parts of it that what happens today is also profoundly important, perhaps even the most important choice that two people can make together.

Let me direct your attention to one of these centres of gravity in this wedding service.    Towards the very end, I will say “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”  These are not my words.  They were spoke by Jesus, and are found in Mark’s gospel  (Mk 10.9).  As the capstone of the marriage service, these words of Jesus underscore the seriousness of what the couple are entering into, although to be sure the vows themselves speak eloquently of the stakes of marriage:

“… for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, for the rest of our live, according to God’s holy law.  This is my solemn vow.”  (BAS 544).

There’s honesty here, isn’t there?   Those of us with some experience of love know something of the myriads of catastrophes that any newlyweds are vowing to face together: temptation, betrayal and forgiveness; job loss and economic ruin; life changing illnesses and accidents; dementia and slow, undignified decline.  In part, the marriage service is saying to the newlyweds, buckle up, because you’re going to need God’s help to get through this ride.

Of course, for each of these potential tribulations, the wedding vows point to a concomitant blessing. Sickness and health, joy and sorrow, poverty and wealth are all bound up together in the fullness of our lives.  As the psalmist writes, “Weeping may spend the night, but joy comes in the morning” (Ps 30.5).    In his earthly life, Jesus had full experience of the variety of human experience, from sharing the joy of the wedding at Canaan and the hospitality of friends’ houses, to his tears at the grave of his friend Lazarus.   Indeed, the incarnation of Jesus is God’s promise of commitment to our earthly life in all its hills and valleys.   In all this, God says in Christ and in the Holy Spirit, I will go with you and be there for you.

Jacob and Amanda, where will this journey take you?   I pray, indeed, in a few minutes, we will all pray, that this journey will take you to many good places.    We will pray that God blesses you with rich long lives, with children, and grandchildren.  We will pray that you will grow wise, patient, and kind with one another, as we heard in today’s readings from scripture.  We will pray that your home will enrich the human community as a place of joy, warmth, and hospitality.   We will pray with confidence that God’s Spirit will go with you, guide you, and even protect you.

I say protect you because I know, as many of us do, that the marriage vows do not guarantee you a smooth ride.    Some years ago, I had the opportunity to spend many hours in an oncology ward, observing patients spending long hours receiving chemotherapy.  What always caught my attention were the couples, some younger than others, but many you could tell whose marriages had strengthened and prepared them for this moment.  I saw loving glances, hands being held, those quiet moments when a spouse’s quiet presence is the greatest gift of all.  The chemo word is one of those places where we see that marriage is a gift of God, part of God’s design for the well-lived human life.

All of the things we see in this marriage service – friendship, partnership, community, parenthood – are part of the created life and order that God gives us to enjoy, and are also resources that God gives us to help us endure the challenges of life.  Jacob and Amanda, may God bless you and go with you through the days and years of this high calling and wonderful gift that you enter into today.

 

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